We’ve come to my final installment on habits to create time and spaciousness in your day. Here’s one you may resist, but you probably know you need to do it: reduce your email, on-line, and television time. Many people tell me that after a long day they just want to unwind and veg out either online or watching tv or movies. I get that. But if you find that you are not connecting with your partner, or that you are feel like your personal growth is stunted, or that you’re out of shape ….. ask yourself if American Idol or Facebook are worth the trade-off.
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When someone asks how you are, don’t answer “Busy,” it just reinforces your feeling of being squeezed and often turns into a busier-than-thou competition – ugh! You list all the things you have been doing, your friend then feels compelled to chime in with everything that he or she has been doing, each of you half-complaining, half-boasting. This is not a contest that either of you should want to win. Even worse than that, describing yourself as “busy” puts up a wall.
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Don’t allow yourself to come to the end of the day wondering what you did all day with no sense of accomplishment. Take charge of your time. Here’s one way: either the night before or soon after getting up, review what you need and want to get done. What is most important to you? Most urgent? Most satisfying? It sounds obvious, but establish your priorities and start with those items, building your schedule around them. Include appointments, chores, and even meals.
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